Before engaging in conflict resolution, clarify what you hope to achieve and how you would like to feel after the conversation.
1. Define Your Goals: Identify the desired outcome of the conflict resolution process. Do you want to reach a compromise, clarify misunderstandings, or repair the relationship? How do you want to feel?
Practice:
I want to feel...
2. Visualize Success: Imagine how you would like to feel once the conflict is resolved. Visualizing a positive outcome can help motivate you during the process.
Practice: How do you hope or imagine you will feel after this conflict is addressed or resolved? If you need help determining how you would like to feel, use our Feelings Wheel.
3. Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that conflict resolution may not always lead to a perfect solution. Be open to compromise and finding common ground.
Example Script: "I want us to be able to communicate openly and respectfully so that we can find a solution that works for both of us. I hope that we can move forward with a better understanding of each other's perspectives."
Practice: I want us to be able to ____________________. So that we can ____________________.
