What's covered:
- Understanding if you are ready to start dating.
- Logan Ury's Dater Profile quiz
Are you ready to start dating?
You have done all the work of getting to know yourself better, now let’s chat about actually getting out there. Here are a few things to consider when getting back out there:
- Is your life balanced enough to bring in space/time/energy for dating?
- Are you in the right headspace to start meeting new people/making new friends?
- Understand your ‘why?’ Are you doing it because you are lonely, feeling pressured, bored? All of these are totally reasonable feelings but starting from these reasons won’t create the most stable foundation.
- Start dating from the belief that you are already whole as you are. In otherwords, emotional stability is key. Relationships should be an addition to a fulfilling life rather than the sole cause of it.
It's important not to rush into dating if you are unhappy with yourself because self-contentment forms the foundation for healthy relationships. When you take the time to address your own needs and build self-esteem, you are better equipped to form balanced and fulfilling connections with others. Additionally, seeking a relationship to fill a void or to find happiness externally can lead to dependency and may result in unhealthy dynamics. Basically, trying to date when you are unhappy with yourself can lead to relationships that aren’t the best for you in the long run.
Dater Profile quiz
Logan Ury is an expert in the dating world. She wrote the book How Not to Die Alone and, through her research, discovered different types of dating tendencies. Understanding how you approach dating can help you shift away from unhelpful patterns and focus on things you can change to improve your odds of meeting someone. Like attachment styles, try to use this as guidance to inform your choices rather than viewing it as concrete, unchangeable information about yourself. Dating and love cannot be siloed into just one type, category, or plan. People are unpredictable!
Exercise: Take this quiz to find out what type of dater you are.
- What is your biggest takeaway from this quiz?
